I came across these rules from a Victim's Advocacy Group in my area, last week. These rules are worded in such a way that makes sense to children, so you can say them verbatim to even very young children. Children love rules. They appreciate the way rules keep behaviors predictable, and they especially love to point out when someone is breaking the rules. I think these Touching Rules are a good tool for us parents to have in our repertoire. So, please copy them. Type them up in a fun font. Hang them in your child's room or in their bathroom or just talk about them occasionally.
- My body belongs to me.
- No touching if I don't want it.
- Private parts are very special, children do not share them.
- No one is allowed to make me share my private parts.
- No one is allowed to share their private parts with me.
- No one is allowed to touch my private parts.
Exceptions to the touching rules are health care, hygiene, and safety.
(These should be discussed with kids so that no one is able to take advantage of the exceptions.)
If someone breaks the touching rules, go to a grown-up for help.
If something gives me the "uh-oh" feeling, go to a grown up for help.